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Before I Was a Mom...

Posted by John Thornes on March 22, 2010 at 4:55 PM Comments comments (2)

Before I was a mom...


 

 

I never thought about anyone as much asmyself. Now, thinking about myself is a rare occurrence. There aremoments when I get a break I wonder how many new gray hairs I have. Iwonder if I've acquired any new wrinkles. I question how deep thebags under my eyes are. But, as far as my wants are concerned, I havenone aside from the health, happiness, and well being of my child.


 

 

Before I was a mom...


 

 

Life didn't speed up so rapidly. Ididn't do it too often, but I did have time to stop and smell theroses. Now, as soon as a birthday ends, and the holidays are overit's time to go to bed and do it all over. I use to look forward togetting presents, having birthday parties, and eating all kinds offood. Now I am wrapping the presents, throwing the parties, andpreparing the food.


 

 

Before I was a mom...


 

 

I enjoyed lounging around, playinggames and watching TV. Now the television is my best friend somedays, and worst enemy others. When housework needs to be done, andthe significant other is not home, the television becomes mybaby-sitter for an hour (sounds awful, I know). Other days, I amconstantly threatening to turn off the television and take away videogames if (homework, chores, eating etc..,) doesn't get done.


 

 

Before I was a mom...


 

 

I never thought about how my actionsaffected my parents. I did what every child does: cried, screamed,lied, begged, and was defiant. Now, as my child is getting older, heis doing the same things. The curse that was place on me has hit fullforce: (“ I hope one day you have a child that does the samething(s) you're doing now). If only I knew!!!


 

 

Before I was a mom...


 

 

I complained about my life all thetime. Nothing was fair, and I do mean nothing. I wanted to do what Iwanted when I wanted, and I wasn't allowed to. I thought I was grownat the age of 12, and darnit, I wanted to be treated like it. Iwanted a raise in my allowance, or I wasn't doing my chores. Now, Iam fighting tooth and nail to get him to clean his room, to hang uphis coat, stop running in the house. I make empty threats, and I hearmy mother's voice in my head. The entire time, I can't help butthink, “how did she get so smart?!?”


 

 

 

 

Before I was a mom...


 

 

I never had enough clothes, shoes,purses, cd's, etc... Money didn't grow on trees, but it did come fromsomeones wallet, and my hand was always held out. Now, I count myblessings daily. Each of those 10 fingers, and each of those 10 toes.The beautiful eyes, and button nose. That gorgeous smile, and everylittle freckle. They are all I need to know I am the richest personever. And one day, when he is grown, I will be in the same positionas my mother, wanting to give him the world, but knowing he has toearn it like everyone else.

 

 

 


The House

Posted by John Thornes on March 20, 2010 at 5:40 PM Comments comments (0)

Well, we thought the house would be going to auction, but instead it has been listed with a different realtor. As soon as I saw it my heart dropped to my stomach, I have one of those "bad feelings" about it. I'm not sure what to think. Hopefully Monday I can talk to the realtor, and see if there has been any interest in the house, I pray that there hasn't. It's listed as an "investment opportunity." I hate seeing that phrase in there. I can understand how someone could perceive it that way, but not me, for me it's the greatest gift I could ever give my child. Something that would be stable and safe. For anyone else it is an "investment opportunity."

It's Such a Beautiful Day!

Posted by John Thornes on March 20, 2010 at 1:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Tomorrow is the first day of Spring, but today is so beautiful it might as well be here already! I can't believe how warm it is. I wish Spring was all year round. I still have some cleaning to do, some walls to wipe, and some laundry to sort, but it seems such a shame to waste such a beautiful day. I wish Dameon was here so we could go outside together, but I'm sure he's outside with his brothers (he has 2 brothers on his mothers side.)

John's at work, until 3, I slept in late, probably would have slept a little later if our cat, Lucy hadn't been jumping on my head over and over, she has the quirkiest methods to wake me up. But now that I'm up, I'm sure I won't see her for the rest of the day, that's how she works. Silly kitty.

I set up an ebay sellers account last night. We have some Magic the Gathering cards collecting dust from years and years (and years) ago. I figure maybe we can make some money with them. We don't play anymore, so they deserve a good home lol. Well, I am going to enjoy the day, you all should too!

Our Credit Issues

Posted by John Thornes on March 19, 2010 at 4:54 PM Comments comments (0)

 

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Okay, i'm going to take a few minutes break from cleaning and blog a bit :roll: You're welcome! HaHa.

I'm going to give you a little insight on our credit problems. John covered most of his in Our Story, with the 2 credit cards, and medical bills.

We recently paid one of the cards, we're waiting (we were told 30 - 90 days) for the company to update it with the credit reporting agencies. The card was  a Capital One card with a $200 limit, that he tried to cancel but was told he couldn't, they eventually charged it off. We paid $540 Wednesday. We were told we would be getting a receipt yesterday, but it never came, so I'm going to call them later this evening, I'm a little burnt out from talking to them now.

The other card was a Tribute Mastercard and we simply requested the collection agency give us an updated total since they were reporting 3 different totals to 3 differnt CRA's. The next day, they were no longer on the credit reports, I am hoping they contact us soon so we can pay them, I don't want anyone to think we are trying to get out of paying his debts, we just don't want to pay something we don't owe.

The 2 medical bills are from an EEG Dameon had to get due to seizures he was having. $588 for the test, and $155 for reading the test. I'm not sure why it had to be 2 separate bills, but it was, therefore 2 negative tradelines.I called the doctor's office to see if they could recall it from collections (we never got a bill from them, and we were under the impression insurance would be paying it) but they wont. So it looks like we're stuck with at least those 2 negative collection accounts for the next 7 years :mad:.


Well, my mind is starting to wander, so I am going to finish up my cleaning for the day and I will most likely be back on tonight.



Hello!

Posted by John Thornes on March 19, 2010 at 4:03 PM Comments comments (1)

I wanted to take a few minutes to introduce myself, I'm Amber, John's girlfriend of 4 years. I'll be posting a bit more than John most likely due to his work and sleep schedule. I wanted to thank our visitors for taking the time to stop by, and give you the chance to comment or ask us anything you'd like. I know our situation may seem a little surreal or unbelieveable, and I understand any skepticism behind it. I would be skepticle as well. I would offer to give you my word (and I do) but seeing as this is the internet, that wouldn't be of much use now either, would it? This is why we invite  you to communicate with us directly, to allow us to confirm and validate what we say as the truth.


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Well, I'm off to start some Spring cleaning while Boogie (Dameon) is away - as much as I enjoy the quiet I always worry when he's not here...I guess that's just a mother's intuition (I am not his biological mother, but I have been raising him for the past 4 years.)

First Full Day

Posted by John Thornes on March 19, 2010 at 1:37 PM Comments comments (0)

Well, today is the first full day I am in full swing of getting this website thing going (I only refer to it as a 'thing' because I have little to no idea what I'm doing!) I wanted to take a little time to BLOG before I go to work at 3. My son's mother is on her way for her random monthly pickup. She's actually coming this time. I made sure to call her way ahead of time to see if she was, she called back and let Amber know she was on her way. I don't think it's wrong of me to want stability for my child. What parent doesn't want that?? How can you not want the world for your children? I don't get it. Well, I don't think I have the time, nor energy to get into a rant on that subject, but believe me, it's coming! I guess I will try to get a 30 minute nap in before I go in.


To anyone who thinks I am wrong in my thinking, feel free to express your opinions! I'm always open to hear them!!!

I'm not such a great blogger

Posted by John Thornes on March 18, 2010 at 11:23 PM Comments comments (0)

But I guess i can try! Since this is my first time posting a blog (yes, ever!) I am going to make this short, sweet, and to the point. I am desperate. I have exhausted all of my means. I don't know where else to turn, what else to do. I have done extensive research, and the few companies I have found that COULD work with someone in my situation can't, because I'm in Virginia, and they are not licensed here.  I still don't know the date the house will go up for auction, I'm hoping that's a good thing. I've been checking the Fannie Mae site, and the online auction sites religiously and there has been no updates. So maybe I still have time.

I have paid off 1 of my credit cards, and have reported that to the CRA's, so hopefully they will update that, and that will boost my score. I know I should get a secure credit card to boost my score up, I just don't think I can afford to take $300 - $500 and put it somewhere that I cannot access. If I do get a card like that, I would be paying it off in full if I use it. I'm not a rich man, I work hard, and my girlfriend is disabled. We pay our rent, pay our bills, buy our groceries, and take care of Dameon. We make sure he doesn't want for anything, we're not lacking, we're just not overflowing, if that makes sense.

I know what I NEED to do, it's just a matter of what I am ABLE to do comfortably.

Alright, I'm going to end this BLOG posting here, as I am starting to ramble on (or is that the purpose of this?)


Until next time..


John

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Just a quick backlink

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Our Goal

Posted by John Thornes on March 13, 2010 at 6:37 PM Comments comments (0)

http://www.homepath.com/listingdetails.html?st=VA&z=23308&cno=001&listingid=17231139


This is the home my son was born in. This is the home I am so desperatly trying to buy. As you can see, the asking price is below what most homes are valued at, but I am still having no luck getting approved for a mortgage :mad:


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